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Let me start by saying I am going to open a fuking can of worms here.
Abortion.
If you are overly sensitive to this matter past the point of objectionable rational thought then stop here and go look at pictures of puppies.
If you can be open-minded, respectful and are not of the ‘troll’ species then let’s move forward.

I will start out by saying I am biased. I have a child and have almost always wanted one. I am against abortion. Yet. I can allow that it is the right of the woman as to what she chooses. I wish we would always choose to let nature take its course and for the child/ren to be born. Whatever the scenario. That brings me to my point.

I see posts where people say ‘I’m against abortion EXCEPT if it were rape or it put the mother’s life in danger.’ WHY? Why are those exceptions to a tiny human life?
What does the fact that the woman had been raped have to do with the life inside her? Does it taint the child? Will it come out with the word ‘rape’ stamped across its forehead? No! I think part of this goes back to the stigma that rape is always the woman’s fault or is something that is shameful. And both innocent babies and innocent women suffer for that foolishness. This post isn’t about rape, I could obviously expand upon that topic though. I am tired of seeing it used as an acceptable reason for abortion. It’s not. IMHO
In fact, would it not be more helpful in the prosecution if there was TANGIBLE EVIDENCE to the crime? DNA!! It won’t aways be available in every case but even if it helps one surely it is a worthy accomplishment. And if you do not want children, as a woman, usually you are on some form of birth control already. And if not, there is always adoption. Plenty of people want children that cannot have them. So why abort? Because you don’t want to be pregnant? Well I didn’t want to be pregnant either. It sucked for me. I also don’t want to go to work every day. Or pay taxes. Or 15$ for a 12oz beer etc. etc. blah blah blah. Could it be selfishness?? An easy way out. I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist!
Hmmmmmmm. (This is a light bulb moment).

Let’s move on to ‘mother’s life in jeopardy’. Again. Selfishness comes to mind. I have one baby already and I do everything in my power to keep myself safe for him. However not for one second, if I were pregnant again would I choose my life over the other. I have had plenty of time here to see many things. To love many people. And I make sure everyday to let the ones I love most know just how much because I do not take one single day for granted. So if I had the chance to save the life of my unborn child by giving up mine. No questions. Done.
But what if neither life were guaranteed. So be it. Try to save both, either. But do not place me over the child. If I live and the child does not and I knew for a fact everything had been done to save the baby, then I would have to accept that life is hard. Full of unanswerable questions most of the time, but you must find a way to keep on.
We have so many medical options available that even the earliest of babies have a chance at survival outside the mother. I’m not a doctor, but I cannot see any scenario where abortion to save the mother’s life can be so casually acceptable.

Do not forget here, that I can accept that the woman has the right to choose. For herself. But I don’t like the fact that she can also choose for an unborn child, even if it is hers. Because really. It is not hers. No one person owns another. That is the complication with parenting. With life. Sure the baby is composed of half her DNA, and for almost a year her body is taken over, she is responsible for growing a small human inside of her body and the. BIRTHING IT! But she does not own it. And at some point we have to let go of the things we love. No way around it.
Again, I think here that we as a society completely devalue our women. Our mothers. Ourselves. We as human beings are capable of a great many things. Yet women are made to feel that if we do not look like a VS Supermodel or if we cannot party for three continuous weeks then we are damaged goods to be swept under the rug. Why is pregnancy not widely celebrated? Why are children seen as a burden? No wonder abortion is so appealing. How horribly mistaken. How sadly mistaken.

If you do not want a child, for whatever reason. Give it to someone who does. Get on birth control early. If you are pregnant and find you do not feel capable of raising a child, reach out for help. There are so many other options. And if none of this changes your mind. Fine.
But expect me to give you an earful when you give me bullshit excuses.

No apologies.